THE PAIN OF LOVE
FALLING IN LOVE IS NOT IMPORTANT, STAYING IN LOVE IS !!!”
Everyone, at least once in their lifetime, will come across these chemical reactions. May be many haven’t fallen in to this yet, but wait, until you will find yourself in this magical ecstasy.
Vairamuthu sir has already explained this better:
Everyone, at least once in their lifetime, will come across these chemical reactions. May be many haven’t fallen in to this yet, but wait, until you will find yourself in this magical ecstasy.
Vairamuthu sir has already explained this better:
But for staying in the same ecstasy, you have to know these seven goldens rules:
❤️ Love doesn’t equal compatibility. You need not always fall for the one like you. Sometimes opposites attract magically, just like salt and pepper.
❤️ Love is not about solving your problems or substitute for forgetting the other pains. If you dwell on your love to solve your problems, it is going to be obsessive and toxic. But remember, your cute little fights are going to make it strong.
❤️ Love is not always worth sacrificing yourself alone, remember it’s a two-way relation. When you tend to give yourself more, you end up losing yourself more.
❤️Learn to give and receive love and love yourself. Forget the flaws in each other.
❤️Be truthful and loyal to each other. Never search someone else in your partner. She/he cannot be just like your mom or your ex. Everyone is unique.
❤️ Listen, support and understand, not always someone wants a solution. All they need might be your shoulder.
❤️ Respect each other. Respecting each other their goals, passions, friendships and other commitments in life, is going to strengthen the root.
❤️ A much beautifully portrayed true love in OK Kanmani between Ganapathy and Bhavani
THE MOST ADORABLE WORD: Possessiveness
Just like Aishu expressed to Gautam in SOK:
It is way different from jealousy. It is caused by oxytocin and lowering dopamine level.
This occurs when, you feel insecure or threatened or feel inferior, ultimately summing up that you never want to lose that person in your life.
“Love without possessiveness is like food without salt”
You may be actually missing the real taste. But when it’s too much, it spoils the taste!
Too much of it can cause
❤️Reduced dopamine
❤️oversensitivity
❤️ Depression
❤️Finally, incompatibility.
So, control your emotions to control your life.
The bond you may not know:
You all know that love, infatuation and crush are different from each other. But let me make it clearer.There is something called Limerence or Fantasy bond.
It is the intense obsession, arising with being in a relationship and often reciprocated and arising due to soulmate or love at first sight concepts.
This kind of bond calls itself true love. But its way different. Its more dramatic or movie like.
It will feel right and all your hormone levels will be high, especially dopamine.
❤️Crush arises due to admiration. Either you like their character or walk or talk, but something particular.
❤️Then comes infatuation, you want them to be with you forever without knowing them much. You build them a character and believe it is them so, in real too. You start giving them more attention and get lost in the process of making it reciprocate.
❤️After, all these, you fall into this commitment. The real one. You will be ready to work it out no matter what. You grow together. Your psychological connections will be the same even after 40-50 years. It is strong.
As Siva expressed this commitment in SMS
THE STEPPING STONE:
Not all love stories have happy ending. A break up is common. But that’s not the end of the life. If your first love is successful, then your life is ending there. Break-ups teach you more than any inspirational book in your life. Stop blaming and start moving!!
Love is like a drug, so when you remove it, the withdrawal phase is worse. But you can ace it!!
As said correctly by our Ulaganayagan.
This occurs when, you feel insecure or threatened or feel inferior, ultimately summing up that you never want to lose that person in your life.
“Love without possessiveness is like food without salt”
You may be actually missing the real taste. But when it’s too much, it spoils the taste!
Too much of it can cause
❤️Reduced dopamine
❤️oversensitivity
❤️ Depression
❤️Finally, incompatibility.
So, control your emotions to control your life.
The bond you may not know:
You all know that love, infatuation and crush are different from each other. But let me make it clearer.There is something called Limerence or Fantasy bond.
It is the intense obsession, arising with being in a relationship and often reciprocated and arising due to soulmate or love at first sight concepts.
This kind of bond calls itself true love. But its way different. Its more dramatic or movie like.
It will feel right and all your hormone levels will be high, especially dopamine.
❤️Crush arises due to admiration. Either you like their character or walk or talk, but something particular.
❤️Then comes infatuation, you want them to be with you forever without knowing them much. You build them a character and believe it is them so, in real too. You start giving them more attention and get lost in the process of making it reciprocate.
❤️After, all these, you fall into this commitment. The real one. You will be ready to work it out no matter what. You grow together. Your psychological connections will be the same even after 40-50 years. It is strong.
As Siva expressed this commitment in SMS
Not all love stories have happy ending. A break up is common. But that’s not the end of the life. If your first love is successful, then your life is ending there. Break-ups teach you more than any inspirational book in your life. Stop blaming and start moving!!
Love is like a drug, so when you remove it, the withdrawal phase is worse. But you can ace it!!
As said correctly by our Ulaganayagan.
Life is beautiful, no matter what! Never intoxicate your body as well as your life!!!
Look around you to find your beautiful and true circle of friends and family.
Educate yourself and set yourself up in the position, you wanted to.
“Education is medication as well"
❤️Love can be graceful or disgraceful, depending on your DOPAMINE PEAK. So, keep your ruling peak in low key until it’s the right time.
❤️Love will happen with the right person at right time and will guard you till grave.
❤️Love won’t always be Mani Ratnam or GVM movies to you, it can be sometimes like Robert Weide direction, so accept the reality.
Super😂💯❣
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